Emotional Leverage

If you are good with word associations, you need not read further. You will obviously have a fair idea as to what to expect.

If you are not good with word associations and you are bored with a butt load of time to kill, even then you shouldn't bother to read further. I'm sure you can think of something better to do than read my rants.

On the odd chance that some of you people are still reading, well what can I say. Best of luck.

It is important to explore one's abilities.
It is important to realise one's limitations.
It is important to manage one's expectations.
It is important to handle one's disappointments.

If anyone knows how to do that, please do tell me.

I used to think, "no expectations, no disappointments".

Now, I know it is not possible to have no expectations. Thus leading to the conclusion, it is not possible to have no disappointments.

The more we explore our own abilities, we start to build our expectations. Failure to recognise our own limitations invaribaly leads to disappointments.

Only thing not factored into this theory is "emotional leverage".

The extent to which we explore our abilities does not commensurate the increase in our expectations. If we discover that we are capable of doing "x" number of things, our expectations increase by a factor of "x".

Similarly, the extent by which we fail to recognise our limitations does not commensurate the disappointment it causes.

This introduces what I like to call as "social risk". Our expectations are a function of more than just our abilities. We expect things not only from ourselves, but from others around us. Odds are those expectations will not be met.

Applying emotional leverage here, we can see that, more the number of people we interact with, higher are the expectations from them. And if you are a hopeless optimist, then you will never realise the limitations in anyone and you will get hurt. Badly at that.

My workaround for this - It's simple.

Try and limit your expectations to yourself.

That way you will only have yourself to blame. That also means you will run out of excuses when something goes wrong, but it also cuts a lot of crap out of your life.

On the up-side, when something goes right, you will be smiling both on the outside and the inside.

Once Upon the Sea of Blissful Awareness

Presenting Shpongle.

This song will make you willingly and blissfully unaware of everything around you. Just don't listen to this when you are high - on anything.



Lyrics:

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'Waves of the soft spring wind
Love's flood tide is rising full
The moon of love is rising full
Sea of beauty.
The moon of love is rising full
Love's flood tide.
Some laugh, some weep, some dance for joy.

My mind craves nectar day and night.
Like a blue lotus floating on the sea of love.
Lingering in ashantically
Lingering in the akashic realms
Lingering in the realms.
Blue lotus floats, floating, floating..
Some laugh, some weep, some dance for joy.
My mind craves nectar day and night.'

Who knows me better ?

The debate is between me and them. And by them I mean everyone else other than me.

At various points in time, people have come up to me and tried to convince me of what is best for me. If not convince, atleast they have no inhibitions in voicing their opinions. From school, through college, both under graduate and post graduate, till until recently like a few hours ago.

They are just overwhelmingly convinced of what they have to say. Seriously makes me wonder. How can I be so bad at knowing what I want ? Let me illustrate with an example. Following is a reproduction of a conversation I had with a she-friend of mine about 3 hours ago.

she: Elektra (obviously thats not her name, but I like the sound of that name), my other former roomie is coming to stay with me. She's here with me till the weekend.
me: super. enjoy.
she: yeah
me: is she single ?
me: how does she look ?
she: she's not your type.

You see what I'm driving at. You will understand better when I tell you that even I don't know what my type means.

It's like the entire world is suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder. People are just obsessed with psycho analysing everyone else.

It's either that or I'm being paranoid.

Like Omar Epps says in one of the episodes in House M.D, "It's not paranoia if someone is out to get you".

It probably is paranoia if you think everyone is out to get you.

Wait, I'm confused. Somebody help me.

Sunset, Beach, Sundal and the rest

Scene Sindhamani, henceforth referred to as SS, and Rouse Rangamani, henceforth referred to as RR, are friends.

Just as any other weekday, they are jobless and decide to meet up to rant about their joblessness to each other. They decide to meet at elliots beach. They get themselves a packet of sundal each, the universal sign of vettiness.

The following is the complete conversation that occured between them:

SS: Do you know what we should do ?
RR: No. What ?
SS: If I knew I wouldn't have asked now, would I ?
RR: Hmm. If I knew I would have told you now, wouldn't I ?
SS: Hmm. Good point.

They decide to go in for their second packet of sundal and watch the sunset.

Everybody needs a reason to crib

If I start and keep doing ONLY the things I love to do, then I would have nothing to look forward to. Every moment would be the same as every other moment.

As pessimistic and as negative as that may sound, if you just keep quiet for a while and listen to yourself, you will know that is the truth.

Everybody needs a reason to crib.

If all the people were content and happy with the way things are we will all begin to rot in our own filth.

But hey, atleast we'll be happy, right ??