It's the cool thing to do

If you are boy friend and girl friend and if you are walking on the road, then the boy's arm has to be around the girl. Doesnt matter where, hips, shoulders or wherever, just as long as there is visible physical contact.

Why ?? 'Cos it's the cool thing to do. Everybody is doing it. Hollywood and Bollywood is filled with this kind of body language.

Mind you, I'm not saying it's wrong.

What I'm really trying to say is, a boy should put his arm around a girl if he wants to and if the girl doesnt mind or if the girl also wants him to. Not because of, for lack of a better word, peer pressure.

Recently I saw something which triggered this post. I generally hit the beach in the mornings and on my way back home I saw this guy and girl. The guy had his arm around the girls shoulder. But, what I didn't really understand was the Great Wall of sunshine between the two of them. There was no genuine intimacy. Why bother with the arm bit ?? Obviously one or both of them weren't comfortable with what they were doing. But still, there they were.

It's not cool if you are doing something you don't like to do just 'cos someone else thinks it's cool. It's not sophisticated if all that you are doing is imitating someone else.

Sophistication is not in the way you dress or speak or even act. Its in the way you think. You can copy anyone by mostly just watching them, but you can never really carry it off like the person you are copying.

There is nothing cool about trying to be cool. It's just cool if you never do something you don't want to do. It's way too cool if you do something you dont want to do for the right reasons.